In the opening of one of Beyoncé’s anthems, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has an epic spoken word at the beginning of Flawless;
Why is this? I have been thinking about this recently as I am approaching my birthday. I have always been extremely contemplative each year as the day rolls around. I remember sitting on the edge of our covered porch as a brand new thirteen year old. I always enjoying the contrasting feeling of the cold concrete steps against my legs and the warmth of a bright, sunny day in August. As I drank my pink lemonade, which was a staple for me growing up, tears began to fall down my caramels cheeks I thought of the responsibilities of having to become an adult at ominous thirteen. Little did I know, as a millennial I could postpone adulting until well into my thirties! HA! **Insert failure to launch type moment**
Fast forward seventeen years later, I sit on the cusp of more pensiveness. The same bare concrete has been replaced by a balcony of my own. The lemonade in my favourite blue plastic cup, while still enjoyed, has become a crisp and fruity Moscato in a modern stemless wine glass. I sit in my hammock chair and ponder these thoughts. Why do I shrink myself for what someone else wants me to be? Of what someone else thinks I should be? Of what my own insecurities, fears and doubts believe? Should I aim for success, or am I to focus on my babies? Why is it that we as women are always forced to choose?
I refuse to settle for mediocrity. I refuse to let my “outlandish” ideas be reduced because someone else shits on them or can’t see past their own insecurities to allow me to fly. Do you feel the same way? Do you have people who enjoy pissing in your cereal too? For me. I decided to say, “STOP!” I have decided to no longer allow their voices into my life. It is, after all, my life. These are my dreams. My choices. They are yours. Why run when you could fly? For me, this came in focusing on my business and writing the outline of my third (yeah, I said THREE!!!!) book.
As comfortable as complacency is, we are capable of more. As much as I challenge myself, I also extend this challenge to you- what are YOU capable of becoming?